On May 6, I celebrated my 30th birthday.
It’s a big one. While I don’t feel particularly older than I felt on May 5, I do feel like in some ways I’m in a roller coaster car, ticking slowly up the Big Hill and reaching that moment at the cusp when (if you’re lucky enough to be in the first car), you just hang right over the edge, waiting for the rush.
When I think back just over even the last ten years, I can barely believe all I’ve done, the people I’ve met, the experiences I’ve had, and how much I’ve changed, in the span of my 20s. Of course, in some other ways, I’m absolutely stunned at how little I’ve changed, and how much else I would have liked to have accomplish that I haven’t yet gotten to. Despite pride or regret, time continues moving forward, and I have a sense that while the first 30 years were busy, they were a mere warm-up for the mad dash of the next 20. I’m mostly really excited about it, but I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t a little nervous.
Whatever the arrival of my 30s heralds, though, I certainly celebrated to the fullest. Birthday festivities began on May 4, with a dinner party at Open Kitchen in Hoxton, complete with nearly all of my closest friends in London, and made more special still by guest appearances from my brother and his girlfriend (who are in town from Chicago), a high school friend and his wife (who drove in from Sheffield, UK) and our dear friends’ very new baby son (who arrived in the world 11 days prior, and spent most of the party obliviously snuggled in a Moby).
In lieu of a birthday cake, I asked the chef for piles of fresh profiteroles (a new love I picked up in Turkey), and was very pleased with the results — in three different flavors!
On my actual birthday, Mike and I went to Oxford for the day, saw the staggeringly beautiful old campus, and had some elegant tea and scones:
The day after my birthday, we splurged on date-night cocktails and dessert at the posh dinner by Heston Blumenthal at the Mandarin Oriental (oo la la).
But maybe the real reason that 30 doesn’t seem to sting whatsoever is the amazing birthday gift crafted by Mike: a surprise weekend getaway. He told me weeks ago to mark off the dates, and then stayed utterly silent about it, sneaking off into corners to make hushed phone calls and refusing to reveal a single detail to any of my friends, no matter how earnestly they swore to keep their mouths shut.
Thursday morning, May 17, we woke up at 4AM and headed to Gatwick Airport for our flight.
First stop: Marseilles, France.
From Marseilles, we hopped a train to the real destination: Cassis. It’s a small town, about 45 minutes east of Marseilles by train, hugging the coast, known for the local wine, and the breathtaking limestone cliffs and crystal-clear waters of the Calanques.
French Riviera. Le sigh.
We stayed in a beautiful guest house atop a hill, about 20 minutes’ bracing climb from the town … a walk that did us good after boozy long dinners, and which paid off in stunning views: of the terraced green of the wineries, red-tinged cliffs and bluer-than-blue Mediterranean water. We didn’t do too much … which was perfect.
A constant line of customers streamed from the door of the Amorino gelateria and crowding the narrow sidewalk. I do love the way they artfully arrange your flavors on the cone like a flower (above: my pistachio framed with blood orange; Mike’s straciatella (I think?) framed with Ecuadorian chocolate).
Hiking the Calanques
On Friday morning it poured, so we lazed around and read our books until the skies dried up. We caught the last few minutes of the weekly market and picked up a picnic to take out to the Calanques for an afternoon:
Sun for Londoners
On Saturday Mike had planned a day of kayaking, but it was called off due to high winds. We headed to the beach instead … the winds kicked up a few times and chased everyone off the sand, but we stretched out our towels a few meters from the water, near the seawall, where it was pretty well protected.
Marseilles
Sunday morning we checked out and took the train back to Marseilles, where we had a few hours to spend before heading to the airport. I thought Marseilles was fascinating, and I’d love to go back. The buildings have a weary beauty, the harbor overlooks more arid red cliffs in the distance. Marseilles is also undergoing a lot of restoration and improvement, as it plans to meet its designation as European Capital of Culture next year.

Gare de Marseille-Saint-Charles is a gorgeous new train station. Trees grow indoors and the station’s retail shops are built as independent single-story buildings within the huge daylit structure.
The trip was blissful, the birthday, perfect. I wonder how many more trips we’ll take together before 40?




































































































































































